“Elder orphan” is a colloquial term for aging people who are child-free. In our culture, it is often assumed that one’s children will take care of them in their later years. Even if someone has children, the children may be estranged or otherwise not available to be fully present for their parent’s end of life. This creates unique challenges for people who are approaching the end of life without children as the assumed caregivers.
Join us for a session about facing these unique challenges. Meet other elder orphans (including one of the facilitators!), and receive information about the challenges we face such as:
Choosing a healthcare proxy– someone who can make healthcare decisions on your behalf should you become unable to make or communicate your healthcare wishes.
Surviving your partner– If you are childfree and partnered, what is your plan for life after your partner dies?
Caregiving, both physical and financial– who will help support your daily activities? If you must hire caregivers, how will you pay for them?
Staying in community– how to keep your connections to others strong.
After death care– funeral and memorial planning.
Participants will receive resources, and a start on answering these questions for themselves. We hope you leave the program empowered to make your end of life plan.
Russ Alexander has a passion. A passion to awaken you to what you already know: the reality that you and everyone important to you will die. And then, armed with that knowledge, to make and implement a plan. A plan to say goodbye. Goodbye to your life or the life of a person important to you. Russ began his journey in honor of his Mom, leading him to become a hospice volunteer at Penn Medicine in 2013. Then the Universe sent him down another road: train as a hospital chaplain at the Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania. He completed that training in 2019. Throughout these experiences, at the bedside, he observed much suffering and fear. That led him to realize that, in order to empower people to do something about it, he needed to catch people way upstream of being discharged to hospice service or lying in an ICU bed. In 2019, he started the death doula practice, Sunset Companions, with his partner Annie Wilson, to do something about it. In 2020, he trained for death doula work with the International End of Life Doula Association (INELDA).
Annie Wilson is an INELDA-trained death doula since 2020, and a choreographer and performer in Philadelphia since 2007. As an artist, she believes dying is a creative space, and she brings the skills she developed as an artist to serve folks who are: planning for their end of life and funeral, seeking ritual support during active dying, and grieving a loss (death or otherwise). She is CARES certified in end-of-life care for dementia patients, Reiki 2 certified, and has studied with Sacred Grief, Going with Grace, The Grave Woman, and the Centre for Sacred Deathcare. Annie volunteers at Penn Medicine hospice and the PA Debt Collective. She has previously volunteered with Prevention Point after my sister and brother-in-law died of heroin overdoses. She believes there is a systemic dysfunction in how dying people and their loved ones are served, and her work as a doula is to both fill in nonmedical gaps of support and to transform the system so that those gaps no longer exist, including supporting community deathcare.
Home Instead provides non-medical health care to help people age in place safely while maintaining dignity and independence. Their local office has been serving Philadelphia for 20 years and can offer assistance with personal care, appointments, light housekeeping, laundry, shopping, and companionship.